I am really upset and embarrassed because my boyfriend and I just had sex for the first time and I think something is wrong with me because it doesn't feel good to me at all. For me sex doesn't hurt... but I don't get pleasure at all. I just turned 18, and I lost my virginity at 16. Me and my boyfriend at the time had been dating for almost a year, and we had sex multiple times. At first I thought I just had to get use to it.. but nothing changed. So I thought it may have been him being inexperienced (he was also a virgin), but after we broke up I hooked up with a guy a few years older than me who was very experienced. The same thing happened. I have yet to have an orgasm and I don't understand what the problem is! I am now with a guy who I like so so much and I'm worried that this will ruin our relationship. If anyone understands what is wrong with me I would really like to know. Thanks

Can you give YOURSELF an orgasm?

I have before but not ever by actually sticking something in my vagina.

MOST women cannot orgasm from penetration alone.

Try manually stimulating your clitoris during sex, and I think you'll have better results.

Yes, part of the issue is often foreplay, lots and lots.

I suffer from the same problem.

I am unable to feel any pleasure at all and the only time I do feel pleasure if when I'm by myself.

Its quite stressful and even foreplay isn't helping!

Any suggestions?

You need to ask your own question in a new thread. That way we can give you advice that is appropriate for your needs.

Just click the "Ask about Adult Sexuality" button. :)