Originally Posted by liz28
Fawn, I don't know why your putting yourself through this. Your husband has cheated and is still cheating with this woman so how much longer are you going stay and try to sort out his reasons behind his doggish behavior.
Staying just for the kids sake isn't no good at all and they can sense when things aren't right.
Stop trying to mend somehing that is unmendable and unfixable. If you stay with your husband in this unhealthy environment it will only lead to depression for yoi and do you really think your husband would care? No because he has his mistress.
What are you waiting for? For him to pack his bags and leave? Again, for your own sanity leave.
I don't know about leaving that's up to you to decide, but I do agree with Liz, she has much wisedom, but you have to listen for it.
First, "...putting yourself through this."-Liz You are hurt, and putting energy into a relationship that is only there because you are staying there. He doesnt' seem to be the man you love/loved. You don't need to punish yourself, and you are no less a person for leaving him.
His reasons are his own and he will have to live with them. You don't have to hate him, but you don't have to sit by and watch him being reckless with your heart, and more importantly, you don't be reckless with your heart. It's worth more than you think... Just like you.
If you stay for the kids, then the tention and anger, sorrow, hurt, pain, and suffering soaks into them. They sense these things and don't know what to make of them. Later in life can lead to all kinds of issues, including, sexual disfuntion, emotional irationalities, Mood disorders, and self destructing behaviour. Believe me, I know, my muther stayed with my father, and I Had to deal with most those issues. It's different for every one.
You can not change his mind, he seems to have made it up. Things will get you down sooner or later, and you really don't want that. Its self sacraficing, and that's not going to get "you" any where but down.
What ever you decide to do, make sure you do it for you. Please bare inmind that you are a person, smart, strong, independent, and capable. Don't be afraid to live your life.
Peace and kindness be with you.