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    Mar 17, 2009, 03:04 AM
    Boyfriend and porn
    Ok, so I was at my boyfriends house and we were in his bedroom. He went to the loo and I saw his email was up so I got curious and had a look. I saw that he's signed up to a few porn and cam sites, and also saw he's sent some girl a picture of his penis + body, although it wasn't actually his.

    He's 19 and I'm 16, and we're in a long distance relationship and get to see each other every few weeks. I've sent him naked pictures and all that of me, so the intamacy gap doesn't close but seeing all that's made me feel like crap. He know's I have isues with my body and I've been working through them, but now I feel crushed completely. And we've been trying to have sex but there's a personal problem but we're also working through that and he's been great about it.

    I don't know what to do. Am I not good enough for him? Or is it because I don't satisfy his 'sexual' needs?
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    Mar 17, 2009, 05:31 AM

    Not sure what else to say to you, except DO NOT EVER send naked pics of yourself to someone via email. Poor choice, no matter how close you think you are to someone. Please, protect yourself.

    As far as your boyfriend sending nude pics to other girls, I am not going to sit here and judge, but I don't think I would be dealing with that weird stuff. Curiosity killed the cat... snooping sometimes gets you no where, but now you know.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 05:53 AM

    Hi Cat,

    If I were you, I would ask him. Also explain to him that you are uncomfortable with him doing this and what are his reason's behind sending other women naked pics even though it isn't of him. I think its wrong of him to do this, it shows a sign of disrespect to you since you are his girlfriend. But, since this is bothering you, which it should, I let him know that it makes you feel awkward and somewhat hurt, and why does he feel the need to do this. Communication is key in any circumstance. If you don't talk with him, he will never know.

    Keep us posted.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 06:06 AM

    For one thing naked pictures don't replace intimacy, and you still snooped, and found out something that disturbs you. Talk to him about it. Keep your personal issues to yourself, and just get the facts of the matter.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 06:19 AM

    Talk to him, don't send naked pictures. Just type in Google "sending naked pics via text" and see how many horror stories you are seeing. Some times the guy, especially in this case can be charged with child pornography due to you being underage. That would KILL his whole career choice, also stop snooping it's not a good idea.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 08:56 AM
    Firstly, I'm not underaged seeing as I'm over 16 and nearly 17 in a month. And secondly, we've been going out for over 7 months so I trust him, I know he's certainly not a pedofile + never pressured me into anything at all. But thanks anyway, I posted on another forum and got the advice I wanted.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 09:00 AM

    Actually, yes you are underage. Underage is anything under 18, by most US State Laws. Doesn't matter if he pressured you or if he didn't. Being in possession still subjects him to this, also glad you went to another forum and got the "you are over reacting, let it go and he loves you" bull crap answer on that forum. It won't happen here.

    Send Naked Photos and You May be Committing A Felony « JETLawBlog: The Official Blog of the Vanderbilt Journal of Entertainment and Technology Law
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    Mar 17, 2009, 09:01 AM
    I posted on another forum and got the advice I wanted.
    The advice you wanted to hear, or didn't like the flavor of this one?
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    Mar 17, 2009, 09:03 AM

    I'm from the UK so it's under 16 here. And the other advice was better, sorry.
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    Mar 17, 2009, 09:04 AM

    Ok, enjoy it
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    Mar 17, 2009, 09:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat35 View Post
    I'm from the UK so it's under 16 here. And the other advice was better, sorry.
    I'm nosy, what was there advice, and how was it better?:confused:

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